How you can help a friend or loved one who is experiencing dating violence, domestic violence, or stalking

Do tell them that you know what is happening and that it is not OK.
Do listen carefully to what is shared with you.
Don’t ask for details.
Do help the student or loved one gain access to desired help and resources
Don’t make decisions for the them; let her or him have control over the situation.
Do explain that it is not their fault no matter what they think they may have done to cause it.
Do tell your loved one: “However you are feeling right now is ok.”
Don’t tell the survivor: “I understand how you feel.”
Do practice Self Care: Supporting a person who is experiencing dating violence or sta can be difficult and emotionally draining. Do take care of yourself during this process by reaching out to your own support network of friends and/or College support services like the Counseling Center.